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Maternity Wardrobe Style Hack -- Wear Your Regular Jeans Longer While Pregnant!

Maternity Wardrobe Style Hack -- Wear Your Regular Jeans Longer While Pregnant!

Pregnant? Delay buying maternity pants and wear your regular pants longer with this easy life hack!  Preggo style advice and tips, via Devastate Boredom


This will be a pretty brief post because... if you are able to see the photo above, you already know what I'm about to say. 😝

I promised a few days ago in my Ultimate Maternity Capsule Wardrobe post to share about a nifty little hack I used to keep wearing my regular pants for a pretty long while into my pregnancy.  I used this hack for long enough that when I went to the birthing center for check-ups, the midwives would laugh at me for not having bought maternity pants yet.  But they were the only ones who knew!  Nobody else had a clue.  (And the cows said "moo."  All those rhyming board books I'm reading to Baby L are clearly rubbing off on me, LOL)

Here are the pants-expansion hack instructions:  

1 -- Take a regular, simple hair band and loop it around your pants button.  

2 -- Stick the free end of the band through the button-hole.  

3 -- Loop that free end of the band back onto the button.  It will stretch to accommodate the space necessary / available.

This hack will provide you with extra space in your pants while keeping them securely on your backside... with the one caveat that will you need to wear a long-enough shirt so that the waist-band and zipper region of your pants stay covered.  Tunic-length tops are perfect for this.

This hack is also recommended for Thanksgiving Day, and those "my jeans CLEARLY shrunk in the dryer" moments that happen to all of us.

That's all!  

If you'd like a slightly more high-tech take on this, that will likely last even longer into your pregnancy, check out these belly bands on Amazon.  

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How My Husband Rocked Our New Van Purchase - A No-Regrets Guide to Buying a Car from Mr. Boredom Devastator

How My Husband Rocked Our New Van Purchase - A Car Buying Guide from Mr. Boredom Devastator

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When Cars.com asked me to write a sponsored post for them, it was perfect timing because my husband and I had just recently purchased a new-to-us van in preparation for becoming parents a few months ago.  I looped my husband in on the task of writing this post, since he is, in all modesty, a bit of a genius in the realm of car research-and-search.  So, say hi to my husband, Andrew (aka, Mr. Boredom Devastator), as he shares with you his fine-tuned system for locating and purchasing the best possible car for you!

*Andrew waves*  Hello Devastate Boredom readers! When Sarah and I began considering buying a new car, the first and perhaps most important determination was how much we were willing to spend monthly on the new vehicle. There are a few components to the true all-in cost of a new or "New To You" car. First, there is the direct cost of the car, which is the monthly payment. Second, there are the ancillary costs of the car such as insurance, gas mileage, likely maintenance, and any registration fees your county or state may have. Considering both together allows us to budget appropriately and not be surprised by any unexpected expenses.  It is important to start by saying that, as a rule, Sarah and I do not buy new cars.  It tends to be a poor economic value to purchase a brand-new car, given the intense asset depreciation that occurs in the first few years of a car's lifespan. For our vehicle-search this time around, we decided to set an initial price point of $10,000 for the purchase of a used vehicle. 

Once we had determined a monthly budget, we pondered and discussed the requirements of the new vehicle, given our needs. In this latest case, we were expecting the birth of our first child which meant we would have 2 adults, 1 child, and two 75 lb dogs needing to be reliably and easily transported for the near future. Right away we know we will not be getting any two-door convertibles, much to my chagrin. As such, we filtered our search to vehicles that seated at least 7 people. Realistically, that meant third-row SUVs and minivans. Now, one of Sarah's requests is always that her vehicles have as tight a turning radius as possible. A quick google search to check for that information eliminated a number of third-row SUVs from our search, majority of minivans had a better turning radius than third-row SUVs, which further helped to guide our search.  

Note from Sarah:  If you are just beginning to explore your options in terms of what features are important to you in a new vehicle, it might be helpful to check out Cars.com's Videos and Reviews page.  You can explore video comparisons such as "Best Three-Row SUVs of 2016," "Best Compact Sedans of 2017," etc, that can be incredibly helpful in giving you a more visual understanding of the differences between types and models of vehicles.  If you're not sure what you want out of your next vehicle, this is where you should start!  If the video reviews don't happen to include the particular make / model you were looking for, Cars.com also has a side-by-side comparison feature as well, offering you an easy way to view and compare stats on everything from MPG to seating, pricing, reviews, and more.

After you have decided on what type of car and what type of features you wish to prioritize, the next step is to determine what utility will be left in a used vehicle, particularly one purchased at a lower price-point. What does "utility" mean in real life? To us it means getting the best price-to-use or value in a vehicle. Put simply, it will be the vehicle with the lowest possible miles, at or below our set price point. Now, it can be very easy to be lured in by the siren song of seat warmers and features galore, or by that rear entertainment system that you've always wanted. But, at the most fundamental level, you don't actually need those things... what you really NEED is for your car to run well. You NEED a reliable vehicle that will run without issue and last for the time frame that you have determined for this vehicle purchase. In our case, we wanted a car that would likely last us at least five years, if not more. So, as you can tell, we weren't asking a lot!  (#sarcasm)  We simply wanted a used minivan or 3rd row SUV, for $10,000 or less, that was going to last us at least 5 years. 

And it got more complicated from there!  Even though I just said that the most important thing to our decision-making was the utility or economic utility in our vehicle, that's not completely true. In actuality, the most important aspect to our choice of car was the safety of our family.  From the beginning, we prioritized investigating and understanding the safety associated with the vehicles we were considering.

Now, how on Earth did we do that? Aren't all cars safe?  You'd like to think so, wouldn't you... in the past, Once Upon a Time, cars were rated using a star system where 5 Stars was the best crash rating possible. Then the IIHS (the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety) came along and changed how cars are rated. Instead of assigning Stars, they now assign ratings with good being green, acceptable as yellow, marginal as orange, and poor as red. I highly suggest checking any car that you are considering buying with the IIHS, to see to what extent it has been tested and how it scored especially in relation to its peers. 

It is important to note that the IIHS does not compare across classes of vehicle. So, a subcompact car and a minivan might both have good crash ratings, but each one of those crash ratings are considered within the class itself and are not considered across the broader spectrum. This is a vitally important distinction when one is trying to consider and understand the safety of family vehicles. Also, when considering safety it is important to understand that in an ideal world every test would come back good -- but that does not always happen. We should try to consider the most likely safety scenarios we will need in the event of a collision or crash, and work from from that point. 

Adding in the factor of safety at our given price point, there were only two minivans which met our safety requirements. Those were the Honda Odyssey and the Toyota Sienna. Sadly (for our purposes), they are also the two most popular minivans in America and have the highest residual value, which can make getting a good deal more difficult especially in competitive used marketplaces.  I won't lie and say that the 2015 Sedona with perfect crash ratings selling for approximately $15,000 to $16000 in our area was not a huge temptation. It was. But, we stuck to our plan.  We wanted a Honda Odyssey or Toyota Sienna under $10,000 for our next vehicle.  

Cue the searching!  Automobile aggregator search engines like cars.com were a valuable resource to ensure we were familiar with the entire inventory of used vehicles being sold in our vicinity, that met our price and model / safety criteria.  Don't underestimate the power of "advanced search" options and a little patience! The advanced options on Cars.com allow you to tailor your search by dozens of criteria, from fuel type to seller type to interior color, and on from there.  You can even use the features search bar on the left of the page (shown below) to tweak your selections further while you browse, and you can save your search criteria or specific cars to be notified of price drops, new additions, etc.  Save yourself a little leg-work, and take advantage of these kind of features!

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Since we were not in any rush to buy a vehicle we could take our time and wait until we found exactly what we wanted.  For a while, it seemed like every Honda Odyssey or Toyota Sienna in our price range was going to have a 120K+ miles or be 15+ years old, neither of which was appealing to us.  And even when the perfect vehicle did appear, we took about 10 days to think and discuss it before we went to see it. Risky choice on our part! However, when we did go to see it, we knew we were very likely going to buy it that same day and had already secured financing options prior to arrival. I highly suggest having your financing in order before arriving at car dealership, to avoid finding yourself locked into a higher-than-necessary interest rate.  This will avoid any unpleasant budget surprises when the price of the car is suddenly augmented by a high interest rate.  If you need a little extra help with this, a good place to start is to check out the Car Finance Calculator on cars.com. 

So, to review, what is the best way to approach buying a new car? 

First, define your needs. 

Second, define your budget. 

Third, research to understand the safety and utility implications of your potential vehicles. 

Fourth, take your time and and maximize the search options on a site like Cars.com to locate actual vehicles available within your safety and price range preference.

And, once you find your dream car, I suggest that you move faster than we did and and secure the vehicle that you have been working so hard find, with purchase.

Note from Sarah:  We are LOVING our van!  I know it isn't exactly a cool ride (does just using the phrase "cool ride" make me less cool by default??) but it is SO roomy. We stuffed two mattresses from Ikea in there without batting an eye! And alllll the boxes from baby's sweet shower gifts with no problems at all!  Not impressed yet?  Get this...  We just took our first road trip with Baby L. AND we brought our two dogs along. AND two of our friends. AND their dog.  Yep, I'm telling you that we fit four adults, a carseat and baby, three dogs, baby equipment, two dog beds, two dog crates, and baggage for a weekend away, all into our lovely roomy van.  And I don't think anybody even felt crowded!  The dogs did get a little snuggly (pic below!), but it was entirely by choice... there was a whole empty seat next to me and baby in the back where our dog Jayne sat for a good bit of the way.  😜

FFor us, all of Andrew's hard work researching, crunching numbers, and evaluating options has already paid off in spades.  I hope this overview of his process is helpful to anyone else looking to purchase a car in the near future!




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Ultimate Maternity Capsule Wardrobe "How to" Guide, with Preggo Style Tips and Sample Mix-and-Match Wardrobes!

The Ultimate Maternity Capsule Wardrobe "How to" Guide, with Preggo Style Tips and Sample Mix-and-Match Wardrobes!

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Hello friends!  I'm typing frantically to get as much done as possible while the baby is napping... forgive any typos or unusually sloppy writing!!  Also, quick note, this post might not seem very relevant to you right now... if it seems like it might be helpful in the future, be sure to pin it so you don't forget about it! It would also be super nice if you shared this info with any friends who might find it more useful at the moment! 😊  Please and thank you... you're the best!

Knowing me and my passion for Capsule Wardrobes, you probably already guessed that I created a maternity Capsule during my pregnancy.  I'll be honest, it wasn't perfect, but I learned a lot about preggo style in the process!  This post will encompass a few different things -- the details of what my "hacked" Capsule looked like and how I went about putting it together, tips on general pregnancy fashion and how to make a fully mix-and-mach wardrobe, and a sample "ideal" maternity Capsule Wardrobe to get your creative juices flowing.  

So first off, let me tell you about MY maternity Capsule Wardrobe!  If you've read my book (NOW AVAILABLE IN PRINT TOO, eeeeeeek!!) or been following me for a while, you might know that my highlight colors for my "regular" Capsule Wardrobe are red, blue and turquoise, with a family of neutrals consisting of white, black, and grey.  I had this idea that I would make my maternity Capsule around other colors (just for the sake of variety) and so started shopping with vague thoughts of yellow or pink or purple... only to have my maternity Capsule end up mostly black, red, and grey despite myself, haha!  In my attempt to "change things up" I even bought a pair of tan maternity corduroy pants... but I wore them a grand total of ZERO times.  I tried them on twice, but they just weren't me.  All of which I took as further proof that humans don't really crave much novelty... we're drawn to our "favorites" consistently over and over again!  So build a closet strategically around those and call it a (happy, confident) day!  There's my Capsule Wardrobe philosophy in a nutshell lol.  


How to Create a Maternity Capsule Wardrobe the easy "hacked" way:


Step one -- raid your existing closet.  You're looking for loose-fit tops and/or items with some stretch.  Low-rise pants can work for a while just regularly, and when you start to outgrow them you can use this nifty hairband trick to extend their lifespans a little longer into your pregnancy.  Stretchy jersey skirts or dresses also work nicely for pregnancy wear.  I wore mine the whole pregnancy without having to replace them with actual "maternity" dresses / skirts.  Same for open / swingy cardigans, the kind without buttons... your regular ones will work fine through your whole pregnancy.  

Step two -- fill in gaps with strategic Capsule purchases.  Consider that you will be pregnant for basically three seasons.  Lucky you if those seasons are spring / summer / fall because you can pretty much just buy warm-weather items and layer up for chilly days... I was pregnant fall / winter / spring so I had a less flexible Capsule.  


The Contents of My "Hacked" Maternity Capsule Wardrobe:

  • two heavy maternity sweaters, 1 black polka dot and 1 grey
  • four lightweight long sleeve tops, 2 red and 2 grey (1 of the grey was a "swingy" top from my regular closet)
  • one short-sleeve black maternity t-shirt
  • one short-sleeve black maternity t-shirt dress
  • one pair of maternity jeans
  • one pair of black and white patterned maternity capris
  • one pair of red stretchy skinny pants, from my regular closet
  • one pair of black stretchy skinny pants, from my regular closet
  • one jersey layering dress, grey and white striped, from my regular closet
  • two jersey skirts, 1 knee-length red and 1 black maxi, from my regular closet
  • one open / swingy cream cardigan, from my regular closet
  • one open grey sweater vest, from my regular closet
Ignoring the fact that some of the items pictured have short sleeves when they should have long, the image below represents what that gave me to work with. 


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That's 7 tops, 8 bases, and 2 layering piece, making 17 items that combine into 60+ different outfit options for a standard fall / spring day.  I had fewer options on an extra cold or hot day, but since I was trying to really limit my expenditures I didn't mind dealing with a less effective version of a Capsule for a few months.  

Notice that I had extensive color overlap in my bases and tops... black, grey, and red in both.  As I explain in my book, Secrets of the Capsule Wardrobe, this is NOT ideal!  Mixing and matching with my maternity closet was not nearly as effortless as I usually like, and I ended up having to do a rushed load of laundry or borrow a t-shirt from my husband a few times as a result.  Thankfully he has a nice collection of superhero tees so my inner-nerd didn't mind terribly, but still, the point of having a Capsule Wardrobe is to have maximum outfit options with as little hassle as possible.  As I mentioned above, my situation was due to the fact that I hacked this wardrobe by raiding my existing closet for most of my bases, so I just dealt with the inconvenience to avoid further purchases.  The sample wardrobe below is an ideal, no-color-overlap example, with a lot more flexibility as a result. 

Ideas for an Effortless Mix-and-Match Pregnancy Capsule Wardrobe:


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By carefully segmenting color choices by category (layering / tops / bases) you provide for maximum (mindless) mix-and-matching.  The only place the colors overlap in this sample wardrobe is the white layering pieces and the white shorts... but I figured that was safe because you're less likely to need a sweater on a day hot enough to wear shorts.  If you layering up even when you're wearing shorts, you would just sub the white shorts with another color.

Ready for the grand total of possible outfits here??  7 bases + 14 tops + 3 layering pieces = 250+ possible combinations.  Twenty-four pieces of clothing, combining into two hundred and fifty different outfits, spanning three seasons!  Ultimate flexibility, while completely preventing any "what to wear??" dilemmas from overtaxing your poor pregnancy-occupied brain.  You have much better things to think about!  Names, for example, and that baby registry!  (check out my thoughts on baby registries and minimalist parenting here... ooooh mama! *shakes head*)

Other Tips for General Preggo Style and How to Build a Maternity Capsule Wardrobe:


As I always say, BALANCE YOUR BASES!  I don't have time to go into what that means here, but if you aren't familiar with the idea from my previous posts then consider checking out my book, where I explain not only that, but also my theories behind color choice, how to find your personal style, the importance of a variety of clothing "silhouettes," and more.

Look for maternity tops that double as discreet nursing tops too.  If you're deliberate about this, you can get a head start building your nursing Capsule Wardrobe while you are still pregnant!  Go you!  A number of the tops in the sample wardrobe above are nursing tops... can you tell which ones?  

Be aware of horizontal stripes.  At first I typed "Beware of horizontal stripes" but that is too strong a recommendation because I firmly believe you should wear what you like with no rules!  But I'll just share my personal experience that towards end of my pregnancy, I wore a horizontal striped shirt to an event.  I later looked at photos of that event, and felt like I could have picked a more flattering top. 😜  When you're dealing with that many changes in your body over that short a length of time, and you have that many hormones bouncing around and making you crazier than usual, emphasizing the body-changes with horizontal stripes might not be a strategic choice psychologically.  However, this might also be my own personal insecurities talking, so take this paragraph with a grain of salt and decide for yourself.

Be aware of the "oven effect."  As you are baking that adorable little bun, you will experience what I like to call the "oven effect."  Even if you are normally the kind of person who carries a sweater wherever you go, you might find yourself a great deal warmer now that you're pregnant.  The "heavy sweaters" I noted in my list were actually only about medium weight, and one of them only had half-sleeves.  I also purchased a maternity coat, and I think I only wore it maybe three times and I don't think I ever actually zipped it up.  Now granted, I live in the South so I'm sure that was a factor, but you are less likely to need a lot of heavy winter clothing while you are pregnant.  Consider waiting on those purchases until it's actually cold, and you can see whether you will actually need them.

Maternity clothing that fits you at the beginning of your pregnancy might not fit you at the end.  I personally liked the fitted maternity tops with rouched sides, showing off my bump and avoiding the tent look, but even though I stayed pretty trim during my pregnancy that style (in that original size) was way too tight by the end.  So be aware that you might out-grow your maternity tops if you buy a bunch of these type at the beginning of your pregnancy.  That is OK!  Your baby needs nutrients, and gaining weight is part of a healthy pregnancy!  Just plan ahead for that, and either consider incorporating some "swing" tops with a looser fit into your Capsule from the beginning OR know you might end up doing some shopping later in your pregnancy as well.  Either option works.

Consider secondhand options!  Do you have friends around your size who were recently preggo?  Ask if they would mind you borrowing some of their old maternity stuff!  I bought a good bit of my pregnancy Capsule Wardrobe at a local consignment shop called One Hott Mamma (Charlotte ladies, be sure to check them out!) and there are lots of great online consignment shops like Thred-Up (use my link for $10 off!) and Swap.com (use my link for 20% off!) that also carry maternity. Secondhand options will not only save you money but are also good for our planet and help eliminate waste.  Rack up that preggo karma yo!

Remember that maternity clothes websites are there to SELL YOU CLOTHES.  Lately I've seen a number of people selling lots of maternity clothing on ebay, yardsale groups etc, and in this case that word "lots" works both ways.  Some people buy a LOT of preggo clothes!  We're talking 6 pairs of shorts, 7 pairs of jeans, 20 tops... LOTS.  While it is completely your business if you have the funds and the inclination to stuff your closet with items that you'll only be wearing for about 7 months, I think ladies also end up buying more than they mean to simply because they aren't directed in their shopping, and store advertising is persuasive.  Like I mentioned earlier, a maternity store will do their best to sell you an open / swing cardigan that is identical to the one you probably already have in your closet, only this one has "maternity" on the label.  Don't fall for it!  Take a moment to envision your priorities for your pregnancy and then limit your shopping to what fulfills those goals.  Heck, Motherhood Maternity sells SLIPPERS.  There is absolutely no need for pregnancy-specific-slippers, but enough people go "oh sure, I'll get that too" that it makes sense for the site to stock them.  So, as I always say, think about curating a beautiful collection of clothing that expresses you (glowing, gorgeous, growing-a-tiny-human you, at the moment!) and don't get tricked into a bunch of randomness that doesn't qualify.

Building an effortless, confident Capsule Wardrobe for pregnancy is really more or less the same process as building one for non-preggo life (with the addition of the bowling ball under your shirt and that perpetual queasy feeling), so if you could still use more guidance and ideas be sure to check out my book, Secrets of the Capsule Wardrobe: How to Find Your Personal Style and Build a Happy, Confident Closet!  Did I mention its now available in PRINT?? 😍 Even better, click to find out how you can read the ebook version out for free by using a trial (or your existing subscription) to Kindle Unlimited... frugal bonus points!  

*Whew*!  I hope all that was helpful.  All I have left to say is, congratulations!!  Enjoy your pregnancy -- if not the morning sickness and expanding waistline, then the knowledge that you are doing something miraculous and beautiful, even as you sit on the couch with your swollen feet propped up, eating pasta for the ninth day in a row because it's all you can keep down. 😬  Hopefully this guide can help you simplify your closet into something that helps you feel confident and attractive, even on those days that you're pretty sure you're green and not glowing... and I promise, the discomforts are temporary!  Plus, that tiny, squirmy, noisy bundle of joy you get in exchange is so worth it. 😀  *hugs*


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Things on My Mind Lately - Baby! Baby! Baby!

Things on My Mind Lately - Baby! Baby! Baby!


Things on my Mind Lately - Baby, Baby, BABY!  Welcoming Baby Boredom-Devastator, birth announcement mommy-zombie style!


Holy moly, the past couple of months have just FLOWN by!  I gotta admit, there has been ONE THING on my mind for most of that time... Baby Boredom-Devastator!!  Our "little" baby L is now 7 weeks old and seems HUGE compared to how very tiny she was for a while there.  I know, I know, this is the littlest she will ever be from now on... But still... so much growing!  

Being a parent is crazy and wonderful.  My husband and I basically spend all day saying 'isn't she beautiful?' back and forth at intervals.  We feel so blessed to have her and blessed too that my husband works for a company progressive enough to offer generous paternity leave to its employees!  It makes such a huge difference to our overall stress and tiredness levels that both of us can be fully present during this amazing time of change and growth in our lives.  My husband also happens to be a champion diaper-changer and baby-soother.  So much to be thankful for! 

I'm currently writing this while wearing a sleeping baby in a sling, so I'm hoping for more nap-time-composed posts coming in the near future.  I've missed all my bloggy pals!  And I have so much to tell y'all about life with baby, maternity and nursing-friendly fashion, the books I've been reading lately (SO much reading), and more!  So stay tuned!  *HUGS*  (edit: Check out my recent Ultimate Maternity Capsule Wardrobe post here!)

PS  I'm just slightly a zombie in the picture above... baby girl was about four days old.  Look at those TINY FEET!! 😜

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Things on My Mind Lately - Baby! Baby! Baby!

Things on My Mind Lately - Baby! Baby! Baby!


Things on my Mind Lately - Baby, Baby, BABY!  Welcoming Baby Boredom-Devastator, birth announcement mommy-zombie style!


Holy moly, the past couple of months have just FLOWN by!  I gotta admit, there has been ONE THING on my mind for most of that time... Baby Boredom-Devastator!!  Our "little" baby L is now 7 weeks old and seems HUGE compared to how very tiny she was for a while there.  I know, I know, this is the littlest she will ever be from now on... But still... so much growing!  

Being a parent is crazy and wonderful.  My husband and I basically spend all day saying 'isn't she beautiful?' back and forth at intervals.  We feel so blessed to have her and blessed too that my husband works for a company progressive enough to offer generous paternity leave to its employees!  It makes such a huge difference to our overall stress and tiredness levels that both of us can be fully present during this amazing time of change and growth in our lives.  My husband also happens to be a champion diaper-changer and baby-soother.  So much to be thankful for! 

I'm currently writing this while wearing a sleeping baby in a sling, so I'm hoping for more nap-time-composed posts coming in the near future.  I've missed all my bloggy pals!  And I have so much to tell y'all about life with baby, maternity and nursing-friendly fashion, the books I've been reading lately (SO much reading), and more!  So stay tuned!  *HUGS*  (edit:  Check out my recent Ultimate Maternity Capsule Wardrobe post here!!)

PS  I'm just slightly a zombie in the picture above... baby girl was about four days old.  Look at those TINY FEET!! 😜

Hello Spring Cleaning and Awesome Fashion Finds $25 or LESS!

Hello Spring Cleaning and Awesome Fashion Finds $25 or LESS!


Wow, it's been a long time since I posted!  Sorry for the long silence.... I've missed y'all!  As it turns out, growing a human is distracting.  I was going to say "exhausting" but really I've been more distracted than exhausted, at least until the last week or so when I finally went into hard-core nesting mode / spring cleaning.  Nesting / spring cleaning while nine and a half months pregnant is definitely exhausting!  But I'm pretty much done now, and that's a good feeling too... and from what I hear, this is probably the cleanest my house will be for the next 18 years! 😜

I was trying to catch up on bloggy stuff, start a couple of future posts, update my ads (pennies and dimes add up! *coughBabiesAreExpensivecough*), etc, and ended up totally distracted by "ooooh what good deals can I find for less than $25" instead.  After spending what shall remain an undisclosed amount of time on THAT rabbit trail, I thought I might as well share some of my finds with y'all, along with this telegram-style "I've missed you!  More posts coming soon!"  For one thing, I've gotta fill you in on my preggo capsule wardrobe!  It was my smallest capsule yet, and still totally cute and effortlessly mix-and-matchable, so that's up next on my posts-to-be-written list. 😉 

In the meantime, enjoy a little bargain shopping... and say hi in the comments!  I'd love to hear what everybody's been up to... have you done your spring cleaning?  DO you spring clean?  Any good time-saving cleaning tips for the next 18 years for me??  I want to hear!!


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Braxton Hicks Contractions, Minimalist Parenthood, and the Siren Call of the (Dumb) Baby Registry List -- Stuff on My Mind Lately!

Stuff on my Mind Lately -- Braxton Hicks Contractions, Minimalist Parenthood, and the Siren Call of the Baby Registry!

YES! Those Baby Registry Lists are DUMB! - Minimalist Parenthood and the Siren Call of the Baby Registry -- Stuff on My Mind Lately! How to be minimalist with a baby on the way... minimalism and parenting, via Devastate Boredom


A quick note -- if you tried to email me in the last couple of weeks, dear friends, I tragically did not receive your messages.  Why?  Because technology hates me, and a perfectly functional email / server configuration suddenly decided it wasn't properly set up after all... and it took me a minute to realize that my lack of email correspondence was a tech problem and that I wasn't actually getting the Silent Treatment from the universe as I feared.  SO relieved that the universe and I are still on speaking terms after all!!  Moral of the story... if you had tried to get in touch with me, please email again.  It should reach me now!

Stuff on My Mind Lately -- Braxton Hicks contractions!  


My pregnancy app informed me a few days ago that "some women will begin experiencing Braxton Hicks around now" but sheesh, I've been having those bad boys for a couple of months at least.  Not that they're really bad, and there's honestly no reason to think they're male either -- but I was having one as I started typing about it, so they definitely qualify as "on my mind".  😜  

The app also said that the more Braxton Hicks contractions you have ahead of time, the fewer you will have to have during actual labor, presumably because your uterus is so freakin' Jillian-Michaels-style RIPPED after all that practicing / exercising.  Sounds totally scientific, right?  *nods hard to convince both of us*


Stuff on My Mind Lately -- Minimalist Parenthood and the Siren Call of the Baby Registry


The main thing I've been pondering lately, however, is what minimalism looks like in the context of babyhood and parenthood... and how cleverly baby registries are set up to UTTERLY THWART minimalism entirely!  

If you've been around my blog very long you know that I like to cultivate simplicity in my surroundings. This is partly because I have ADHD, and if I'm not careful with my things they end up stored in disheveled piles that make it hard for me to think clearly.  It's also partly because I prefer to collect and decorate with things that hold stories and memories, whether that's ceramics that decorated my grandmother's home when she was a child or carved Buddha statues that my dad purchased while he was stationed in Vietnam.  Long before I read (and loved!) the Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I had my own philosophy of minimalism, which declared that all my things had to pay rent to stay in my home, whether that was in the form of utility or aesthetics.  If it wasn't useful, wasn't beautiful, and didn't make me happy, I should evict it.

Enter baby-to-debut-soon... and BABY REGISTRIES!  Let me tell you, there is some super devious psychology behind baby registries!  (Behind any kind of registry, honestly, but we'll just focus on baby registries right now...)  The first part of that psychology starts with the incentives and the completion discounts.  A free box of baby stuff for opening a registry?  Okay, I'm hooked, thanks for the cute stuff!  Now what?  A completion discount to buy anything left on my registry once baby comes? Yes please!  Oh wait, that means I better list everything I POSSIBLY could need on the registry, so it will be eligible for the discount at the end... I wonder what I will need?

And that's where the whole thing really gets devious.

Because that's when the baby registry starts throwing the lists at you.

Those DUMB lists.  

Here you have an adorably clueless new parent-to-be, wide-eyed and wanting to be prepared for this crazy new life adventure that has hijacked her body, and the registry goes, "now honey, these are the things you have GOT to have."  And, scared of inadequacy and wanting the best for her baby, the new parent nods obediently and goes cross-eyed reading reviews and checking things off The Big Bad List.

And look at how dumb these lists are!  


YES! Those Baby Registry Lists are DUMB! - Minimalist Parenthood and the Siren Call of the Baby Registry -- Stuff on My Mind Lately! How to be minimalist with a baby on the way... minimalism and parenting, via Devastate Boredom

That's right, you MUST have a crib-bedding set.  Even though a crib-bedding set serves no purpose beyond being cute, and in fact putting ANYTHING in the baby's crib (including "breathable" crib bumpers, quilts, security blankets etc) is listed by the NIH as a risk factor for SIDS.  And the Mayo Clinic says to "keep the crib as bare as possible." Suddenly the "must-have" crib bedding set and crib blankets, and the "good-to-have" security blankets, all appear in quite a different light, don't they?  A very minimalist-friendly light, I might point out...

But poor hormonal, anxious mama-to-be might not know any of that, and keeps clicking, determined to provide her baby with a cozy night's sleep.  



In addition, do you see how much clever repetition happens on these lists?  Receiving blankets and swaddle blankets are pretty much EXACTLY the same thing, and then there's crib blankets and wearable blankets...  All adding up to 21+ separate pieces all designed to serve the exact same function, of simply keeping your baby warm.  Whaaaat? 

You don't have to be an avowed minimalist to think that's crazy!  

Basically, of that list up there, the only things that seem like compelling NEEDS to me are crib sheets, swaddle blankets, and waterproof pads that are going to double as baby-changing pads.  And I feel no pressure about whether or not my assessment of that is 100% accurate or only 80%, because I can always adjust it once the baby arrives.  

Deep breaths, fellow Minimalist Mamas!  😤  Join me in repeating one of my favorite mantras...  I'm totally allowed to figure this out as I go.


And, as further reassurance, take note that I have been informed by several awesome Minimalist Mamas (who have a lot more experience than me) that all you REALLY need for baby is diapers and something to feed him / her.  Funny how the companies behind baby registries don't popularize that viewpoint, huh?  😜

To conclude, I'm not saying that there is no place for blankets in baby's life... in fact, we've already been gifted a perfectly lovely baby blanket that I know we will treasure... but it's going to serve as a soft and comfy base for tummy time, or maybe a cozy layer for stroller and carseat outings, until baby is big enough to be past the scary possibility of SIDS.  Because minimalism is all about multitasking with our possessions... and owning 21 difference pieces of cloth all designed to keep baby warm doesn't qualify. 
YES! Those Baby Registry Lists are DUMB! - Minimalist Parenthood and the Siren Call of the Baby Registry -- Stuff on My Mind Lately! How to be minimalist with a baby on the way... minimalism and parenting, via Devastate Boredom

Unless, that is, you live in Alaska or somewhere with a similar climate.  In which case, I readily conceded that keeping baby warm might look a little different for you!  

PS -- if there were any specific baby items that made life as a new parent a little easier for you, please do let me know in the comments... I'm a minimalist, not a masochist! 😉 




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